Making a Fresh Start

Making a Fresh Start

Can you even believe it’s already April, school holidays next week and we are into the 2nd quarter of 2019! I have had the strangest of starts to 2019; from getting that nasty flu virus twice this year then viral meningitis , 3 weeks ago my son and I were in a car accident ( and still in recovery). I came out with a broken bone in my hand; not great as I am a photographer, bruised sternum and chest ligaments, and my son has concussion and whiplash. Pretty frightening experience for us both as my son watched me being taken by stretcher to the ambulance in a lot of chest pain. We are both extremely thankful to the amazing NHS emergency services and the wonderful people that stayed to look after us both.

Boy has that all messed up with my 2019 plans. Although I don’t make New Year Resolutions ( see my post here), I still have plans, aspirations and dreams for the upcoming year that I like to reflect on every quarter. This year it feels like every time I try and get that mojo flowing and put myself out there, I have had a knock back. It makes me question everything about myself, my business, am I good enough, it really has messed with my brain.

For someone who has clinical depression this has been a really trying time for me and my family. I am very fortunate to have good friends around me, one a life coach and one a wellbeing coach amongst them. Both have spoken to me and told me I have to slow down, listen to my body and take time out for myself, less time on social media. In fact both Gina and Natasha have said to delete the apps from my phone ! Pretty scary if I am to be honest lol , but nothing is going to happen if I step away for a week is there. I may loose a few followers, nothing major in the grand scheme of things.

The other advise they gave me is to take baby, mindful steps at a time. This advise is the greatest gift they both gave me, one I need to work on, not to pressure myself and not to make such big goals that the end seems nigh impossible. One of those baby steps is to get some fresh air everyday , no pressure to count steps, just fresh air that will clear my mind, be beneficial to my mental health, good for my heart, and Buddy benefits too!

So here goes my fresh start and hopefully a healthy one at least!

 

 

Why I don’t make New Year Resolutions

Why I don’t make New Year Resolutions

It’s that time of year again, Big Ben has chimed in a New Year 2019 and gym memberships are being signed up, cookbooks for healthy eating are flying of the shelves, and I’ve already broken every NY resolution I have made and its only January 3rd !

So I’m not making any. And what a burden has been lifted of my shoulders already by just writing it down ! Oh the pressure to lose 4 stone by the end of the year, exercise every day for an hour, get up an hour early, write a journal, the list is endless. I’ve made resolutions like this for years and fail at the first hurdle. This year I have thought long and hard and I am NOT making a single resolution. Even the word “resolution” sends shivers up my spine! Instead looking at setting small achievable goals like, set my alarm clock 10 minutes earlier and building up time over a longer period. Loose 1lb a week, thats 52 lbs in a year! 4 stone is a terrifying amount of weight when you look at it like that. Write a journal once a week and build from there. This all becomes so much more achievable straight away. And who says you have to start them on January 1st anyways ??

Instead I am going to make small goals that when I look back in 12 months a larger goal will have been achieved. This starts with my word for 2019. This year I choose BRAVE. It just popped into my head and I kept coming back to this word BRAVE. I looked it up in the dictionary to understand fully what BRAVE would mean for me.

n : braveCourageous, dauntless, perhaps a little bit daring, a person who is brave faces dangerous or difficult situations with courage. … Both adjective and verb forms of the word share a common meaning — the sense of having courage or acting fearlessly.

It does not mean “being afraid and doing it anyway.” Nope. Brave means listening to the still small voice inside and DOING AS IT SAYS. Regardless of what the rest of the world is saying. Brave implies WISDOM.

I love everything BRAVE stands for, I am going to step out of my comfort zone. I am going to not let my fears hold me back. I am going to be a little bit daring!

Being brave will mean:

  • Taking my business to the next level and not holding back because of my age.
  • Taking control of my eating habits
  • Meeting new people and not worrying what they may think of me
  • Embracing turning 50 this year and not hold back because of a number
  • Contacting businesses/individuals I want to collaborate with, they can only say no in the end!
  • Stop comparing myself to others on social media and accept who I am and like me ( this is one of the toughest for me to be honest)
  • Stop listening to the voices in my head telling me I can’t, be brave and try it. Better to have tried than not tried at all

I cannot wait to see where my word takes me in 2019.

Do you make resolutions or do you choose a word for the year? Would love to hear your thoughts…

PS : Highly recommend listening to Christina Greve’s podcast on goal setting for some great tips